Am older woman dating younger man
Cougars are all the rage for men in their twenties through forties (although the latter are kidding themselves—they’re no young cubs).
But just what is it about women in the 40 plus group that is such a turn on?
in conversation, but you have to watch it around a cub. Don’t completely stay quiet about what you’ve done!
Part of what attracts a young guy to an older woman is all her knowledge and experience about careers, travel, relationships and life in general.
Mariah Carey, 42, has had twins with Nick Cannon–that’s a 10-year age gap. But top of the tree, as ever, is Madonna, 53, who is at least considering a marriage proposal from her 24-year-old boyfriend, Brahim Zaibat.
Yet women shouldn’t assume that all younger men will eventually want children. Despite the prevalence of the cougar trend, older women shouldn’t expect society to treat their relationships with younger men as “normal.” They will likely field their share of raised eyebrows from friends and family members.
Says Winter, “More and more, I’m meeting young men partnered with women 15-20 years older, both of whom don’t want to have children.” In fact, the desire to remain child-free may account for many younger men seeking older female partners in the first place. So a woman’s ability to successfully date a younger man may ultimately come down to being an independent thinker who is brave enough to buck the system (kind of like Madonna).
“If she is fearful, insecure and doubting her merit, she will never be able to accept that her younger man loves her.” Winter adds that media reports about Demi Moore’s obsession with looking young are “the perfect example of how the ideal of youth and beauty can torture even the most lovely example of a modern-day woman.” The idea that one must maintain an illusion of youth to keep a younger partner is illogical. “It’s an up-front buy that he’s willing to accept, because he values the totality of who she is and what she brings to his life.” Talk about family planning.
Insecurity and infidelity are juicier issues, for sure, but the most common reason older women’s relationships with younger men end is more prosaic. “That’s usually what it comes down to.” The most common disagreements arise when the younger man wants a child, and the older woman is done having children, can no longer do so or is simply committed to her child-free lifestyle.You probably don’t have the abs you used to back in the day, so get acquainted with flowy tops.